My husband and I have been married for 14 years. I came into our marriage with 3 children and lots of baggage I was convinced was not my doing. Together, we had another daughter who is now a teenager. We had an extremely hard time of it with my older children. Imagine that! The older children left our home to move in with their father.
I blamed my husband, not myself for all of the problems in our home. I withdrew more from him with every problem or issue we faced in our lives. I made it HELL for him! In turn, it became a living hell for me as well! My husband is a pilot and has provided a very comfortable life for us, until he was let go from a corporate flying job in our hometown. We moved 3 states away so he could continue to work. The job did not last long and he was let go. We moved back home, where I made the decision to leave our marriage.
I separated from my husband two years ago, and not a day has gone by when he did not plead for me to save our marriage. I was buried in my own disappointment and hurt to even communicate with him. I ignored him, would not talk to him. He had a tough year, but the message of his love for me was constant. He began working again, and got his career on track. Then to top it all off, his mother died unexpectedly. I pulled even further away, refusing to comfort him.
More time passed and we were weeks away from our divorce being finalized when he brought his new girlfriend to our daughter's cheerleading competition. I sat across the gym from him, and was hit with the realization the other woman was sitting with MY husband!! When I got home that night I texted him and asked him if it was too late for us. He responded that it was not too late and he has always, and would always, love me! We are working hard to find our way back to each other. It will not be easy, but we are both committed to each other. Knowing he has been with someone else physically has been hard for me to accept, but once we made the decision on which direction we were going, he has never looked back or even mentioned her name. He has only looked forward to our future, and I'm looking in the same direction...forward.
He is flying right now, and will be home in two days, and I feel like a teenager planning our first date! I feel so blessed I realized he has always been, and will always be, my man, and I am his woman.
Thank you for your years of wisdom. I have listened to your show everyday since you moved to SiriusXM. I never really heard you until that night in the gym. I am your biggest fan, Dr. Laura, I mean that sincerely! I am so glad your words finally sank in! God bless you!
Jennifer
P.S. My older children are all amazing despite everything I did to screw them up with my selfish decisions! My son served his country in the Marine Corps, and is very happily married with 2 sons. He has always had the same message to me...."Mom, save your marriage!!"
