Hi, Dr. Laura here, and welcome to our YouTube channel where I get to answer questions like this one from Maribel:
"My husband's position in a public school system has been eliminated due to severe budget cuts. [That's happening everywhere, isn't it?] On a positive note, due to his union, he has 'bumping rights' to a different position with the same benefits at a lesser pay of 5 percent. Although he still gets paid very well, he is not a happy camper. He finds it humiliating and demeaning.
Dr. Laura, I know you can't make someone else happy and that it comes from ABOVE and WITHIN, but is there some way I can help him realize how blessed he/we are? Help me to help get back the man I married who seemed happy then."
OK. First thing you need to do is to say to him, "That is a bummer. That is a crummy feeling. 5 percent, 50 percent - it doesn't matter. That's a real downer. You've worked hard, you deserve more, and it's just a shame that the economy is going the way it is and that you can't get what you deserve. And I've got to tell you, I am so proud of you, that even with this annoyance, you are rising to the occasion, being a man, and taking care of your family. As a matter of fact, it makes me more horny about you." I think that would work.